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-===== Key to a great relationship and a happy marriage... =====
+==== Key to a great relationship and a happy marriage... ====
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 I BELIEVE THAT WE MUST GIVE 100% (our all) REGARDLESS OF WHAT WE GET BACK.\\
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 == by David Maree ==
-  * **Communication:**     Open, honest, and respectful communication helps resolve conflicts and build trust.
+  * **Communication:**     100% Open, honest, and respectful communication helps resolve conflicts and build trust.
   * **Let go:**     Don't hold on to the past. Let it go. Don't hold grudges and resentment.
   * **Trust:**     Trusting each other 100% is fundamental to a strong, long-lasting relationship. Distrust breeds insecurities, and insecurities and distrust KILLS RELATIONSHIPS.
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 ==== Remember to always... ====
   * Hold hands more...
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   * How's work more...
 **...there's NEVER too much of these**.
-===== DOES THE OTHER PERSON MATTER TO YOU? =====
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+==== FROM LUST TO TRUST – DEEPER INTIMACY IN LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS ====
+**REAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT BUILT ON LUST – THEY ARE BUILT ON TRUST**
+  * The best sex doesn’t happen at the beginning of a relationship.
+  * The first ±3 months are **lust**: all chemistry, instinct, imagination, and urgency.
+  * You're not connecting with the **real person** — you're connecting with the *idea* of them.
+  * Don't meet or connect in a club or a bar.
+    * Your brain is wired for short-term rewards.
+  * For a meaningful connection, meet at a coffee shop or a park. IN THE DAY.
+  * Early sex feels explosive, like a match in a dry forest — fast, exciting, but fragile.
+  * Long-term intimacy, when nurtured, is like neutrinos moving through matter — silent, unstoppable, and profoundly real.
+  * You can’t rely on lust to build a connection — you must **build** something deeper through **presence**, **trust**, **honour** and **respect**.
+  * Most couples never learn how to **build tension inside trust** — they drift into routine, parenting, stress, and lose polarity.
+  * When the spark fades, they either give up or chase someone new — mistaking lust for connection.
+  * Real intimacy comes from:
+    * Showing up with **presence**,
+    * Holding onto **difference**,
+    * Creating **tension without conflict**,
+    * Feeling **safe but still magnetically pulled** to each other.
+  * Lust is imagined — **real desire is built**.
+  * Presence fades, not desire.
+  * You can’t recreate “new,” but you **can recreate the pull** — over and over again.
+  * When both people hold space, carry presence, and respect the polarity — sex becomes a form of **reconnection**, not routine.
+  * This is not about becoming someone new — it’s about being **fully seen as yourself**, again.
+  * Most couples never get here — not because they can’t, but because they didn’t know it was possible.
+  * **From lust to trust** — that’s the important shift.
+  * Simply changing from a **closed relationship** to an **open relationship** will never truly “fix” a relationship that is already broken, unsatisfactory or unstable.
+That’s the difference.
+**PS**
+  * Opening the relationship may **distract from the root issues**, but it does **not resolve** them.
+  * If communication, trust, respect, and emotional connection are damaged, no amount of new partners or freedom will rebuild what’s missing.
+  * Open relationships work only when built from a foundation of **deep trust**, **emotional maturity**, and **mutual agreement** — not as a patch for unresolved pain.
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+=== DOES THE OTHER PERSON MATTER TO YOU? ===
 ==== Show them !!!!====
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-===== FINANCE =====
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+==== FINANCE ====
 ==== Relationship KILLER ====
 ==== Financial Teamwork is a Relationship SAVER ====
-**Quick Take: The 75-15-10**
+A quick look at two popular budgeting frameworks for managing personal finances:
-  * **75%** - everyday expenses
-  * **15%** - long-term investing
-  * **10%** - short-term savings
-**Budgeting Rule:** The 75/15/10 rule is a simple way to budget and allocate your paycheck.
+^ Category           ^ 50/30/20 Rule *                         ^ 75/15/10 Rule                          ^
+| **Essentials**     | 50% – Needs                          | 75% – Core Expenses (Living Costs)     |
+|                    | Housing, utilities, food, transport  | Rent, bills, food, essentials          |
+|                    | Minimum debt payments                |                                        |
+|                    |                                      |                                        |
+| **Wants**          | 30% – Lifestyle                      | 15% – Discretionary Spending           |
+|                    | Dining out, hobbies, entertainment   | Non-essential shopping, entertainment  |
+|                    | Vacations, subscriptions             | etc.                                   |
+|                    |                                      |                                        |
+| **Savings & Debt** | 20% – Savings & Extra Debt Repay     | 10% – Savings                          |
+|                    | Emergency fund, investments          | Emergency fund, retirement, etc.       |
+|                    | Extra loan payments                  |                                        |
-This is when you divert **75%** of your income to needs such as **everyday expenses**, **15%** to **long-term investing** and **10%** for **short-term savings**.
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+=== Key Differences ===
+  * ** 50/30/20 *** gives more flexibility and balance between needs, wants, and savings – great for general financial discipline.
+  * **75/15/10** is more conservative, prioritizing living expenses heavily – good for high-cost areas or tighter budgets.
+----
+**Tip:** Choose a model that fits your lifestyle, income level, and financial goals.
+You can also tweak either rule to build your own custom ratio.
 **It's all about creating a balanced and practical plan for your money.**
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+==== Fun Fact 2025: The Power of Wealth (And What *You* Can Do) ====
+**There are approximately 3,028 Billionaires in the world**, controlling **US$16.1 Trillion** in total net worth. \\
+Not impressed? Let's go bigger:  \\
+**There are over 58 million Millionaires** globally (yes, each billionaire is technically one of them too), together accounting for a colossal **US$213.8 Trillion**.\\
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-Billionaires in the world - US$ 16.1 Trillion Total (give or take a Bill)
+=== Imagine This ===
-mil Millionaire (that incl each Billionaire) - US$ 213.8 Trillion Grand Total
+What if just **10%** of that total wealth went toward global betterment annually?
+  * Solar infrastructure.
+  * Environmental restoration.
+  * Public health and education upliftment.
+The world would be transformed, year after year. \\
+But... that's not how it's going (yet).
+----
+=== Here’s the Real Takeaway ===
+We can't all be billionaires.
+We can’t all be millionaires.
+But each of us can **do something**.
+Take this example:  \\
+In **2019**, **my family and I donated trees** to a nature reserve.  \\
+In **2029**, those trees will be converting **980 tons of fresh oxygen per year**.  \\
+That’s real. That’s making a difference for the benefit of....\\
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+**→ Everyone can do something. Start where you are, with what you have.**
+The world needs *you*, not your millions.
+A broad‑leaf Yellowwood that escapes logging, lightning and wind‑throw can easily reach\\
+–800 years, quite possibly over a millennium;\\
+the best growth‑rate data suggest an absolute biological ceiling somewhere around //1 200–1 500 years//\\
+Anything beyond that has not yet been scientifically confirmed.
-Imagine what 10% could do,
+^ Seed condition ^ Clean seed mass per tree (kg) ^ Approx. viable seeds / tree / year* ^
-The solar, environment, the benifits to man and they could do that annually but....
+| Normal year     | 2 – 4 kg       | 3 400 – 11 000 |
-Each of us needs focus on what we can do.
+| Good “mast” year| up to 10 kg    | 17 000 – 28 000 |
-My family and I already in 2019 gave trees to a nature reserve that would in another 7yrs, be converting 980 ton of freshly produced oxygen per year.
-Everyone can do something.
+*//Rounded from://*
+  * Seeds / kg = (1 000 g ÷ 0.36 – 0.60 g) ≈ 1 700 – 2 800 raw seeds
+  * × 80 % average viability → ≈ 1 400 – 2 200 viable seeds / kg
+  * Multiplied by the kilogram range shown above.