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 ==== Key to a great relationship and a happy marriage... ==== ==== Key to a great relationship and a happy marriage... ====
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 +__**TO END AN ARGUMENT, YOU AND YOUR PARTNER, STOP AND READ min2 SESIONS**__\\
 +__**THEN DECIDE IF YOU STILL WANT TO HAVE THAT ARGUMENT**__
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 I BELIEVE THAT WE MUST GIVE 100% (our all) REGARDLESS OF WHAT WE GET BACK.\\ I BELIEVE THAT WE MUST GIVE 100% (our all) REGARDLESS OF WHAT WE GET BACK.\\
 WE MUST TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING AND HAVE **NO** SECRETS.\\ WE MUST TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING AND HAVE **NO** SECRETS.\\
 SECRETS BREED INSECURITIES AND INSECURITIES KILL RELATIONSHIPS.\\ SECRETS BREED INSECURITIES AND INSECURITIES KILL RELATIONSHIPS.\\
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-//if one gets nothing back...//\\+//**if one gets nothing back...**//\\
 //any relationship or marriage is like an investor,//\\ //any relationship or marriage is like an investor,//\\
 //at some point they would like a return on their investment//\\ //at some point they would like a return on their investment//\\
 //is it worth it to continue investing or is the investment dead?//\\ //is it worth it to continue investing or is the investment dead?//\\
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 == by David Maree == == by David Maree ==
   * **Communication:**     100% Open, honest, and respectful communication helps resolve conflicts and build trust.   * **Communication:**     100% Open, honest, and respectful communication helps resolve conflicts and build trust.
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 **...there's NEVER too much of these**. **...there's NEVER too much of these**.
  
-==== FROM LUST TO TRUST – DEEPER INTIMACY IN LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS ==== 
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-The best sex doesn't happen at the beginning of a relationship – and here's why. 
  
-The first three months? That’s *lust*. All chemistry, instinct, urgency. It’s powerful but imagined. You’re not connecting with the real person – you're connecting with the idea of them. +==== FROM LUST TO TRUST – DEEPER INTIMACY IN LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS ==== 
- +**REAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT BUILT ON LUST – THEY ARE BUILT ON TRUST**
-Later? It can become something deeper. +
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-Lust is fast and chaotic, like a match in a dry forest – exciting but fragile. Long-term intimacy, when nurtured, is like ringing a heavy old bell – it echoes across your life. +
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-The truth is: sex can become **better** than it was at the beginning. But not unless you *build* something. Real connection isn’t automatic; it’s *earned* through trust and presence. +
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-Most couples never learn how to build tension *within* trust. They get lost in logistics, routines, parenting, baggage. They assume the spark is gone. Some chase new lust instead of learning to create polarity inside their own relationship. +
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-What makes long-term sex magnetic isn’t novelty – it’s **presence** and **difference held in safety**. +
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-Lust is imagined. Real intimacy is built.\\ +
-Desire doesn’t die – presence does.\\ +
-You can’t recreate the new, but you *can* recreate the pull.+
  
-When both people show up, carry presence, hold difference, and build real tension inside trust, sex becomes something else entirely: not just pleasure or release – but reconnection.\\ +  * The best sex doesn’t happen at the beginning of a relationship. 
-Not because you're someone new – but because you're truly **seen**, again.+  * The first ±3 months are **lust**: all chemistry, instinct, imagination, and urgency. 
 +  * You're not connecting with the **real person** — you're connecting with the *idea* of them. 
 +  * Don't meet or connect in a club or a bar. 
 +    * Your brain is wired for short-term rewards. 
 +  * For a meaningful connection, meet at a coffee shop or a park. IN THE DAY. 
 +  * Early sex feels explosive, like a match in a dry forest — fast, exciting, but fragile. 
 +  * Long-term intimacy, when nurtured, is like neutrinos moving through matter — silent, unstoppable, and profoundly real. 
 +  * You can’t rely on lust to build a connection — you must **build** something deeper through **presence**, **trust**, **honour** and **respect**. 
 +  * Most couples never learn how to **build tension inside trust** — they drift into routine, parenting, stress, and lose polarity. 
 +  * When the spark fades, they either give up or chase someone new — mistaking lust for connection. 
 +  * Real intimacy comes from: 
 +    * Showing up with **presence**, 
 +    * Holding onto **difference**, 
 +    * Creating **tension without conflict**, 
 +    * Feeling **safe but still magnetically pulled** to each other. 
 +  * Lust is imagined — **real desire is built**. 
 +  * Presence fades, not desire. 
 +  * You can’t recreate “new,” but you **can recreate the pull** — over and over again. 
 +  * When both people hold space, carry presence, and respect the polarity — sex becomes a form of **reconnection**, not routine. 
 +  * This is not about becoming someone new — it’s about being **fully seen as yourself**, again. 
 +  * Most couples never get here — not because they can’t, but because they didn’t know it was possible. 
 +  * **From lust to trust** — that’s the important shift. 
 +  * Simply changing from a **closed relationship** to an **open relationship** will never truly “fix” a relationship that is already broken, unsatisfactory or unstable.
  
-This is what most couples never experience – not because they can’t, but because they didn’t know it could become something *more*.+That’s the difference.
  
-From lust to trust.\\ +**PS** 
-That’s the shift.\\ +  * Opening the relationship may **distract from the root issues**, but it does **not resolve** them. 
-That’s the difference.\\ +  * If communication, trust, respect, and emotional connection are damaged, no amount of new partners or freedom will rebuild what’s missing. 
-That’s the message.+  * Open relationships work only when built from a foundation of **deep trust**, **emotional maturity**, and **mutual agreement** — not as a patch for unresolved pain.
  
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- +=== DOES THE OTHER PERSON MATTER TO YOU? ===
-==== DOES THE OTHER PERSON MATTER TO YOU? ====+
 ==== Show them !!!!==== ==== Show them !!!!====
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 ==== FINANCE ==== ==== FINANCE ====
 ==== Relationship KILLER ==== ==== Relationship KILLER ====
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 A quick look at two popular budgeting frameworks for managing personal finances: A quick look at two popular budgeting frameworks for managing personal finances:
  
-^ Category           ^ 50/30/20 Rule                         ^ 75/15/10 Rule                          ^+^ Category           ^ 50/30/20 Rule *                         ^ 75/15/10 Rule                          ^
 | **Essentials**     | 50% – Needs                          | 75% – Core Expenses (Living Costs)     | | **Essentials**     | 50% – Needs                          | 75% – Core Expenses (Living Costs)     |
 |                    | Housing, utilities, food, transport  | Rent, bills, food, essentials          | |                    | Housing, utilities, food, transport  | Rent, bills, food, essentials          |
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 === Key Differences === === Key Differences ===
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 +  * ** 50/30/20 *** gives more flexibility and balance between needs, wants, and savings – great for general financial discipline.
   * **75/15/10** is more conservative, prioritizing living expenses heavily – good for high-cost areas or tighter budgets.   * **75/15/10** is more conservative, prioritizing living expenses heavily – good for high-cost areas or tighter budgets.
-  * **50/30/20** gives more flexibility and balance between needs, wants, and savings – great for general financial discipline. 
  
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 **It's all about creating a balanced and practical plan for your money.** **It's all about creating a balanced and practical plan for your money.**
  
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 === Imagine This === === Imagine This ===
 What if just **10%** of that total wealth went toward global betterment annually?   What if just **10%** of that total wealth went toward global betterment annually?  
-* Solar infrastructure.   +  * Solar infrastructure.   
-* Environmental restoration.   +  * Environmental restoration.   
-* Public health and education upliftment.  +  * Public health and education upliftment.  
  
-The world would be transformed, year after year. But... that's not how it's going (yet).+The world would be transformed, year after year. \\ 
 +But... that's not how it's going (yet).
  
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 In **2019**, **my family and I donated trees** to a nature reserve.  \\ In **2019**, **my family and I donated trees** to a nature reserve.  \\
 In **2029**, those trees will be converting **980 tons of fresh oxygen per year**.  \\ In **2029**, those trees will be converting **980 tons of fresh oxygen per year**.  \\
-That’s real. That’s making a difference for the benifit of....\\+That’s real. That’s making a difference for the benefit of....\\
  
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 +THE MOST VALUABLE THING IN THE WORLD AND LIFE, IS... **TIME**
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