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 ==== Key to a great relationship and a happy marriage... ====
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+__**TO END AN ARGUMENT, YOU AND YOUR PARTNER, STOP AND READ min2 SESIONS**__\\
+__**THEN DECIDE IF YOU STILL WANT TO HAVE THAT ARGUMENT**__
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 I BELIEVE THAT WE MUST GIVE 100% (our all) REGARDLESS OF WHAT WE GET BACK.\\
 WE MUST TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING AND HAVE **NO** SECRETS.\\
 SECRETS BREED INSECURITIES AND INSECURITIES KILL RELATIONSHIPS.\\
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-//if one gets nothing back...//\\
+//**if one gets nothing back...**//\\
 //any relationship or marriage is like an investor,//\\
 //at some point they would like a return on their investment//\\
 //is it worth it to continue investing or is the investment dead?//\\
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 == by David Maree ==
   * **Communication:**     100% Open, honest, and respectful communication helps resolve conflicts and build trust.
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   * The best sex doesn’t happen at the beginning of a relationship.
   * The first ±3 months are **lust**: all chemistry, instinct, imagination, and urgency.
-  * You're not connecting with the *real person* — you're connecting with the *idea* of them.
+  * You're not connecting with the **real person** — you're connecting with the *idea* of them.
   * Don't meet or connect in a club or a bar.
     * Your brain is wired for short-term rewards.
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   * Early sex feels explosive, like a match in a dry forest — fast, exciting, but fragile.
   * Long-term intimacy, when nurtured, is like neutrinos moving through matter — silent, unstoppable, and profoundly real.
-  * You can’t rely on lust to build a connection — you must **build** something deeper through **presence** and **trust**.
+  * You can’t rely on lust to build a connection — you must **build** something deeper through **presence**, **trust**, **honour** and **respect**.
   * Most couples never learn how to **build tension inside trust** — they drift into routine, parenting, stress, and lose polarity.
   * When the spark fades, they either give up or chase someone new — mistaking lust for connection.
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   * This is not about becoming someone new — it’s about being **fully seen as yourself**, again.
   * Most couples never get here — not because they can’t, but because they didn’t know it was possible.
   * **From lust to trust** — that’s the important shift.
+  * Simply changing from a **closed relationship** to an **open relationship** will never truly “fix” a relationship that is already broken, unsatisfactory or unstable.
 That’s the difference.
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+**PS**
+  * Opening the relationship may **distract from the root issues**, but it does **not resolve** them.
+  * If communication, trust, respect, and emotional connection are damaged, no amount of new partners or freedom will rebuild what’s missing.
+  * Open relationships work only when built from a foundation of **deep trust**, **emotional maturity**, and **mutual agreement** — not as a patch for unresolved pain.
-==== DOES THE OTHER PERSON MATTER TO YOU? ====
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+=== DOES THE OTHER PERSON MATTER TO YOU? ===
 ==== Show them !!!!====
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 ==== FINANCE ====
 ==== Relationship KILLER ====
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 A quick look at two popular budgeting frameworks for managing personal finances:
-^ Category           ^ 50/30/20 Rule                         ^ 75/15/10 Rule                          ^
+^ Category           ^ 50/30/20 Rule *                         ^ 75/15/10 Rule                          ^
 | **Essentials**     | 50% – Needs                          | 75% – Core Expenses (Living Costs)     |
 |                    | Housing, utilities, food, transport  | Rent, bills, food, essentials          |
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 === Key Differences ===
+  * ** 50/30/20 *** gives more flexibility and balance between needs, wants, and savings – great for general financial discipline.
   * **75/15/10** is more conservative, prioritizing living expenses heavily – good for high-cost areas or tighter budgets.
-  * **50/30/20** gives more flexibility and balance between needs, wants, and savings – great for general financial discipline.
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 **It's all about creating a balanced and practical plan for your money.**
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 === Imagine This ===
 What if just **10%** of that total wealth went toward global betterment annually?
-* Solar infrastructure.
+  * Solar infrastructure.
-* Environmental restoration.
+  * Environmental restoration.
-* Public health and education upliftment.
+  * Public health and education upliftment.
-The world would be transformed, year after year. But... that's not how it's going (yet).
+The world would be transformed, year after year. \\
+But... that's not how it's going (yet).
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 In **2019**, **my family and I donated trees** to a nature reserve.  \\
 In **2029**, those trees will be converting **980 tons of fresh oxygen per year**.  \\
-That’s real. That’s making a difference for the benifit of....\\
+That’s real. That’s making a difference for the benefit of....\\
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+THE MOST VALUABLE THING IN THE WORLD AND LIFE, IS... **TIME**
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